It's NOT Just Joking Around! - A Survivor's Guide to Joking and Peer Abuse

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Please Stop Laughing at Us...One Survivor's Extraordinary Quest to Prevent School Bullying
Author: Jodee Blanco

With her New York Times bestselling memoir Please Stop Laughing at Me…, the shocking story of how she was tormented by her classmates from elementary through high school, Jodee Blanco sparked a landmark movement in our nation’s schools. In this compelling sequel, she responds to the demand for more information from teens, parents, educators, and other adult survivors like herself who have come to know and trust her as the champion of their cause.

She provides advice, answers, and solutions, set against the dramatic narrative of her own deeply personal journey as the survivor who unexpectedly finds herself the voice of America’s forgotten students. Persuasive and enlightening, this is the definitive work on school bullying, and the story of America’s rejected youth from the perspective of the one person with unprecedented access to the truth about what’s going on in our schools. Travel with her as she witnesses the apathy of teachers and administrators who ignore students in peril, and celebrate with her as she meets adults in the school systems who are risking everything for their students. The author exposes both the strengths and vulnerabilities of a nation too clouded by empty rhetoric and self-defense to understand the crisis that is crying out to be addressed.

** Please Stop Laughing at Us…One Survivor’s Extraordinary Quest to Prevent School Bullying is the recipient of the prestigious 2008 Parent to Parent Adding Wisdom Award.

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Glossary of Key Terms from Please Stop Laughing at Us . . . One Survivor’s Extraordinary Quest to Prevent School Bullying

• Adult Survivor of Peer Abuse™—an adult who was chronically bullied and/or shunned by his classmates and who has been scarred by this abuse.

• Aggressive Exclusion™—the most damaging form of bullying, often used by Elite Tormentors, best defined as a deliberate omission of kindness. Examples include letting someone sit alone at lunch every day, ignoring someone as if he’s invisible, always choosing the same person last when dividing into teams in class, letting someone walk alone to class and never inviting him to participate in social gatherings.

• The Ancient Child™—the typical profile of the bullied student, best described as an old soul, a kid who’s blessed or cursed, depending upon how you look at it, with a stronger conscience, and a more evolved sense of compassion and empathy than other kids his age. No matter how hard he tries to hide it, in the end, the sensitive, thoughtful adult inside him usually wins out over the teen who just wants to belong.

• Arbitrary Exclusion™—when a best friend or group of friends inexplicably turns on someone and persuades everyone else in the clique to follow suit. This form of bullying rarely precipitates any specific act, but seems to come out of nowhere, which is what makes it so devastating.

• Compassionate Discipline Driven by Curiosity™—enlightened innovative disciplinary strategies that help children discover the empathy inside them and develop it like a muscle. Its purpose is to teach children the joy of being kind as opposed to the consequences of being cruel, which is the focus of traditional punishment.

• Elite Leader™—the caring, compassionate popular student.

• Elite Tormentor™—the mean-spirited popular student who employs subtle, insidious forms of bullying such as Aggressive Exclusion and Arbitrary Exclusion.

• Empathy Deficit Disorder™—a chronic lack of empathy that inhibits a child’s access to the compassion inside him.

• Irreverent Educator™—the teacher with the instinct of an activist. He or she isn’t afraid to stand up to authority or challenge the status quo and will break the rules when necessary. The Reverent Educator is the teacher who respects the rules and prefers established policies and procedures to get things done.

• Note: Both types of educators are equally vital to the system. One is the catalyst for change, and the other the facilitator, and it’s the blending of the two that makes a school run efficiently.

• Rejection Junkie Syndrome™—a form of self-sabotage experienced by many peer abuse victims in which a person grows so accustomed to negative attention from his classmates that when they finally do leave him alone it’s like a death, and he finds himself provoking them to bully him again because if he’s being ridiculed at least he knows he still exists. It’s as if circumstances drive him to make a choice between being a no one and being a target.


JODEE BLANCO BOOK TOUR

Wednesday, August 4th & Thursday, August 5th, 2010 St. Mary's County Public Schools Loveville, Maryland Keynote at School Kick Off Event Evening Seminar & Book Signing Friday, August 20th, 2010 St. Mary's County Public Schools Loveville, Maryland District wide staff workshop Evening Seminar & Book Signing Monday, August 23rd & Tuesday, August 24th, 2010 Montgomery Catholic Prep School Montgomery, Alabama Day long INJJA Program Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public Time & Location TBA Monday, August 30th, Tuesday, August 31st & Wednesday, September 1st 2010 Academy of Our Lady of Guam Hagatha, Guam Three Day Long INJJA Programs Evening Parent/Family Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public Location & Time TBA Wednesday, September 8th & Thursday, September 9th, 2010 St. Mary's County Public Schools Loveville, Maryland Day long INJJA Seminars Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public Times & Locations TBA Tuesday, September 14, 2010 Meyer Academy West Palm Beach, Florida Day Long INJJA Program Evening Parent/Family Seminar & Book Signing 3261 North Military Trail West Palm Beach, FL Time TBA Thursday, September 16th, 2010 St. John Vianney School Janesville, Wisconsin Day Long INNJA Program Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public 1250 East Racine Janesville, WI 7-9:00pm Wednesday, September 22 , 2010 Sacred Heart Catholic School Hallettsville, Texas Day long INJJA Program Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public 313 South Texana Hallettsville, TX Time TBA Friday, September 24th Central Community Unit School District #301, 30109 Day Long INJJA Program Monday, September 27th, 2010 Open to the Public Evening Parent/Family Seminar &Book Signing Location & Time TBA Wednesday, September 29th, 2010 Academy of Holy AngelsRichfield, Minnesota Day Long INJJA Program Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public Location & Time TBA		Monday, October 4, 2010 Forsyth Country Day School Lewisville, North Carolina Day-Long INJJA Program Evening Parent/Family Seminar & Book Signing Location & Time TBA Wednesday, October 6, 2010 Maryland Suicide Prevention Conference Baltimore, Maryland Keynote Address, Workshop Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public 6717 Dogwood Road Baltimore, MD Time: TBA Thursday, October 7th, 2010 Academy of Notre Dame Villanova, PA Day long INJJA Program Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public 560 Sproul Road Villanova, PA 7-9:00pm Wednesday, October 13, 2010 Melrose Area Public School, ISD 740 Melrose, Minnesota Day Long INJJA Program Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public 546 N. 8th Avenue East Melrose, MN 7-9:00pm Tuesday, October 19, 2010 Northern Illinois University Dekalb, Illinois Two hour workshop Thursday, October 21, 2010 ACCA of Albany New York Albany, New York Student Presentations & Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public Location & Time TBA Friday, October 22, 2010 Diocese of Albany Teachers Conference Albany, New York Keynote address and break out session Monday, October 25, 2010 The West Virginia Council for The Prevention of Suicide Morgantown, West Virginia Three hour staff workshop Wednesday, October 27th, 2010 Cretin Derham Hall St. Paul, Minnesota Day Long INJJA Program Evening Seminar & Book Signing Free & Open to the public 550 S. Albert Street St.Paul, MN Time: 7-9:00pm Thursday, November 4, 2010 Nativity Catholic School Burke, Virginia Day-Long INJJA Program Evening Parent/Family Seminar & Book Signing Location & Time TBA Wednesday, November 10, 2010 LaSalle Academy Providence, Rhode Island Day-Long INJJA Program Evening Parent/Family Seminar & Book Signing Tuesday, November 30, 2010 Fairlawn Academy Fairlawn, Ohio Day-Long INJJA Program Evening Parent/Family Seminar & Book Signing

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